How would your relationship be affected if you enjoyed greater self-esteem? What if you were to face life more enthusiastically and deal more effectively with inevitable problems?
The higher the altitude of your attitude the more self-confident and together you will feel. You will be amazed at the effortless success of your relationship.
Examine your attitude toward yourself, toward your partner, toward your relationship and toward life in general. If you rated the altitude of your attitude as soaring high, under the radar or grounded, where would you be?
A negative attitude about our self, our partner, or our relationship will keep our relationship grounded. If you want your relationship to soar to new heights then you will need to raise the altitude of your attitude.
Not only does our attitude affect our behavior, it also affects our perceptions. When the altitude of your attitude in on the ground your vision is restricted and you can only see what is right in front of you. Raising your attitude will give you a whole new perspective, one that allows you to see the beauty and wonder of your relationship as well as the obstacles.
Your attitude determines how you “see” your relationship. Are you focused on the problems in your relationship? Or are you focused on the strengths?
We have the power to choose the altitude of our attitude. Allowing our attitude to remain grounded creates a lot of tension and strain in our relationship. Choosing to raise our attitude will allow our relationship to grow and flourish.
Steps to Get Your Attitude Off The Ground
1. Reconnect with nature. Enjoy a sunrise or sunset together. Go for a moonlit walk, or spend some time enjoying a lake, river or mountain.
2. Keep a gratitude journal. Write down the positive experiences or things in your life. Write down what you are grateful about your partner and your relationship.
3. Describe your relationship in a positive way. Try replacing negative words with words that empower you. “My marriage is growing stronger all the time.”
4. Find a mentor or example to learn from. Feed your mind positive examples and thoughts about relationships. Find inspirational quotes, books, audio recordings and fill your mind will quality thoughts.
5. Use positive self-talk. Is your inner dialogue critical and negative? Once you become aware of negative self-talk you have to interrupt and replace the self-defeating thoughts.
6. Take care of your appearance. People who are self-confident take-time for personal grooming and cleanliness. But interestingly the opposite is also true— taking care of your appearance will lead to increased feelings of confidence. It also says to your partner, “I want to look good for me and I want to look good for you.”
7. Take time for you. This is not being selfish; this is good for your mental health. When you take care of you, your will have more to give to others.
8. Laugh and enjoy life. Watch a funny movie, read a humorous book, collect fun cartoons. Find a reason to laugh, learn to laugh at yourselves and not take life so seriously. Sharing a good sense of humor can go a long way toward making your marriage an enjoyable place to be.
9. Do something different just for fun. Regularly take time to have fun together in your daily life. Take a vacation. If you feel you can’t afford a vacation, arrange a stay at home vacation. Be creative. Enjoying variety can boost your attitude.
10. Encourage your partner. Celebrate their achievements and sincerely compliment them regularly.
“See” your relationship from a new perspective. Use the steps to raise the altitude of your attitude. Focus on what is working and what you want, rather than on what is not working or what you don’t want. Watch you confidence and your relationship strengthen.
About the Author:
Susan Derry, Professional Counselor & Life Coach, Co-author of Marriage Prep: Beginnings a downloadable marriage preparation course. Offers a free Nurturing Marriage Ezine
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